TL: DR; Board A is instable, but will boot with a ROMinator and 64MB of OWC RAM. Board B is stable, but refuses to boot with anything but a specific ROM/RAM combo.
This SE/30 project has been ongoing for years and I've done countless hours of testing because I was at a point where I could not trust any one component.
Board A is the original board. It was re-capped and repaired. It "works". It will boot and run, but after a few hours will start to be flaky, crash, and not want to boot for awhile. Board A has had the BMOW ROMinator II and 64MB of OWC RAM in it most of the time. It also crashed and "booted" to a weirdly high-pitched tone after a few hours of testing with old RAM and factory ROM.
Board B has been re-capped, repaired, and went through extensive testing with 8MB of RAM and a factory ROM. I had it running for 4-5 days without any issues. However, I wanted more than 8MB of RAM so I moved over the ROMinator and the OWC memory and it won't boot. The ROMinator with the 8MB also does not boot. These are matched sets and I've tried different positions. Board B only likes one specific ROM.
I know the 64MB is overkill and at this point I would settle for 16MB. Each time I swap the SIMMS I feel like I'm pushing my luck with the plastic sockets.
My questions:
[Board B] I feel like I'm missing something with being so picky about the ROMs and RAM. What is the best way to get stable memory?
[Board A] I'm undecided if I'm going to do a deep dive and try to find the issues or go the reloaded route. I feel like if it was a trace it would always be flakey. I'm open to suggestions. I planned to use this board in a clear case and add an accelerator.